You may ask why I stay with my functioning addict. The answer is that I know that underneath this horrible addiction the person I love is still there, and is trying to get straight.
I decided long ago the best way for me to look at it was to understand that the abusive mean behavior was the drug and not the person. Of course I hold the person responsible for doing the drug but the only way to handle it is to fight the drug as if the person was possessed.
I did remove myself this year for a couple of months to let this person hit bottom so they could learn to help themselves. It did help and I returned to support their efforts to get straight. The problem is that a lot of this persons so called friends who tell them to get off the drug are the same people that are selling it and giving it to them. That I don’t understand and I hate them for it.